Sunday's Sermon 2008

"How your Relationship with Others affects your Relationship with God"





A.  This is a continuation of sermon on prayer.

·        Morning—How personal matters hinder our prayers.

·        Evening—How interpersonal matters hinder our prayer


B.  Have you ever had your relationship with one person affect

            your relationship with another person?

            EX:  Bad day at work affects family at home.

                        Bad morning at home affects work performance.


C.  Your relationship with others affect your relationship with God. 

If you aren’t on speaking terms with others,

you may not be on speaking terms with God. 

Your relationship can hinder your prayers.


D.  Let us look at some examples:


I.  Your Relationship to Your Parents.  (Prov.1:8-9, 24-29)


A.  Children will always test the boundaries.

            EX:  Kayla putting one foot in kitchen.

            ILL:  I once heard about an earthquake recently that frightened the inhabitants of a certain town. One couple sent their little boy to stay with an uncle in another state, explaining the reason for the nephew's sudden visit. A couple of days later the parents received the following telegram, "Am returning boy. Send earthquake next instead."


B.  Children who willfully are in rebellion to parents

            are out of fellowship with God.


            1.  In OT it says a rebellious child could be stoned.

                        If they are worthy of death, they won’t be heard.

            2.  In NT it says a child who does not support family is

                        worse than an infidel.  Infidel’s prayers not heard.

C.  Some need to ask forgiveness of parents.

II.  Your Relationship to Those in Authority.

(I Samuel 15:3,22,23)


A.  Your authorities are ministers of God.

·        Parental authority.

·        Work authority.

·        Governmental authority.

“Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers.

For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.

Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation.

Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour.”  (Rom.13:1-2,7)


B.  To rebel shuts the doors of heaven.

·        Children who rebel against parents.

·        Employees who rebel against employers.

·        Citizens who rebel against country.


EX:  Dr. Kent Hovind


III.  Your Relationship to your Spouse. (I Peter 3:1-7)


A.  The Respect a Wife gives her husband can affect prayer life.

            1.  A wife is to look up to her husband.  (Eph.5:22-24)

            2.  A lack of respect can affect prayer life.

                        ILL:  I Cor.11—The Headcovering

                        a.  The headcovering is not just hair.

                                    (v.6 wouldn’t make sense)

                        b.  The headcovering was a symbol of respect

                                    for a husband. (v.5 head=husband v.3)

                        c.  The headcovering was to be worn during two

times—praying and prophesying.(5)

                        d.  The headcovering was worn in prophesying

(to women, not mixed I Cor.13:34,35) to

show under husband’s authority.

                        e.  The headcovering was worn in prayer to

symbolize respect of husband that prayers be

not hindered. (11:13)


B.  The Respect a Husband gives his Wife can affect Prayer life.


            1.  A husband is to look out for his wife.  (Eph.5:25-28)

            2.  Love is displayed in protecting, providing, promoting.

            3.  A husband is to look only at his wife.

                        EX:  Requirements for deacons & pastors =

                                    Example for men of church


            ILL: A minister who often helped his wife with the housework finally protested when she demanded that he help wash the dishes. "This isn't a man's job," he said.

"Yes it is," she said. "Look up II Kings 21:13."

This is what he read, "...and I will wipe Jerusalem as a man wipeth a dish, wiping it, and turning it upside down."


IV.  Your Relationship to your Church.


A.  We are to support the Faith of the Church. 

            If we don’t, we are put out.  (I Cor.5:1-5)


B.  We are to support the Fellowship of the Church.

            If we don’t, we are put out.  (Matt.18:19,20)


C.  We are to support the Finances of the Church.

            If we don’t God is put out.  (Mal.3:10)

ILL: I will tell you the story of Jonathan Brown

The wealthiest man in Vanastorbiltown.

He had lands, he had houses, and factories and stocks,

Good gilt-edged investments, as solid as rocks.

"Every thing that I have," he so frequently said,

"Shall belong to the Lord just as soon as I'm dead."

So he made out his will, with particular care,

A few hundred here, a few thousand there.

For the little home church in the village close by

He planned a new building with spire so high,

And chimes to be heard from miles upon miles,

And deep crimson carpet all down its long aisles.

For his pastor, a new home, with rooms large and nice;

For the village library, a generous slice.

And then he remembered a college,

Where young folks were taught the essentials of knowledge.

The promising son of his very best friend

To prepare for the ministry he planned to send.

He'd pay for his board and his room and tuition,

Expecting the lad to fulfil a great mission.

His pastor, in old shoes, and shabbiest raiment,

Suggested the Lord might enjoy a down payment.

But he said it weren't smart to do business that way.

"I'd end up in the poorhouse for certain," he said,

"If I give up my money before I am dead."

He grumbled because the good preacher'd been rash,

And sat down again to figure his cash.

Now Satan stood by with a devilish grin,

Saw all that old Jonathan had to put in;

"Ahem," said the devil, concealing a smile,

"I'll see that this old fellow will live a long while."

So Satan chased off every menacing germ,

And sprayed antiseptic on each threatening worm,

Until not a disease could get near brother Brown,

And his excellent health was the talk of the town.

He survived epidemics of flu and of measles,

Of typhoid, diptheria, Bavarian teasles;

He escaped the distress of acute 'pendicitis,

He couldn't as much as have old tonsillitis.

At sixty he still was quite hearty and hale,

At seventy he hadn't yet started to fail,

At eighty his step was still youthful and spry,

At ninety his nieces said, "Why don't he die?"

But the day after he was a hundred and two,

And Satan weren't looking, a germ wriggled through

And laid Brother Jonathan low in his grave,

And his relatives gathered in solemn conclave.

Lawyer Jones read the will in a voice deep and round,

But there wasn't a legatee that could be found.

The little home church he had loved in his youth

Had long closed its doors and ceased spreading the truth.

His pastor had died poor a long time before

And the village library existed no more,

The college, they found when they finally wrote,

Was long ago sold on account of a note.

And the boy that he planned to send off to school

Had grown up in ignorance, almost a fool,

And had seven sons, each one worse than the rest,

And eleven grandchildren, the whole tribe a pest.

So his ungodly relatives each took a slice,

And his lawyers forgot, and paid themselves twice,

And there wasn't a friend and there wasn't a mourner,

Not even the paper-boy down at the corner.

And Satan, still smiling, turned to tasks fresh and new,

Muttered, "Brother, let this be a lesson to you,"

Wagged his fingers and spat as the casket went down.

Thus ended the story of Jonathan Brown.



V.  Your Relationship to the Poor.  (Isa. 59:1-4; 1:4,15-18)


“Whoso stoppeth his ears at the cry of the poor, he also shall cry himself, but shall not be heard.”  (Prov.21:13)


“Blessed is he that considereth the poor: the LORD will deliver him in time of trouble.”  (Ps.41:1)


A.  We sometimes get calloused to cries of poor.

B.  But do we want God to get calloused to our cries?


ILL:  A MULETEER set forth on a journey, driving before him an Ass and a Mule, both well laden. The Ass, as long as he traveled along the plain, carried his load with ease, but when he began to ascend the steep path of the mountain, felt his load to be more than he could bear. He entreated his companion to relieve him of a small portion, that he might carry home the rest; but the Mule paid no attention to the request. The Ass shortly afterwards fell down dead under his burden. Not knowing what else to do in so wild a region, the Muleteer placed upon the Mule the load carried by the Ass in addition to his own, and at the top of all placed the hide of the Ass, after he had skinned him. The Mule, groaning beneath his heavy burden, said to himself: "I am treated according to my deserts. If I had only been willing to assist the Ass a little in his need, I should not now be bearing, together with his burden, himself as well."

"Do for others what you would like them to do for you. This is a summary of all that is taught in the law and the prophets"





VI.  Your Relationship to Those you Have Wronged. 



ILL:  Wrongly divorced wives in Malachi’s day had covered

            the altar with tears that God would not hear prayers.



A.  You could have wronged others by falsehoods.

            “Thou shalt not bear false witness.”


ILL:  When George Washington was stationed in early life at Alexandria, with a regiment under his command, his spirit became heated one day at an election, and he said something very offensive to a Mr. Payne. In response, Payne felled him to the ground with one blow of his cane. On hearing of the insult offered to their commander, the regiment, burning for revenge immediately started for the city; but Washington met them and begged them by their regard for him to return peaceably to their barracks. Thinking himself in the wrong in his hasty expressions, he nobly resolved to make an honorable reparation. The next morning Washington sent a polite note requesting Payne to meet him at the tavern. Payne took it for a challenge, and went in expectation of a duel. However, what was his surprise to find, instead of pistols, a decanter of wine on the table.

Washington rose to meet him and said with a smile, "Mr. Payne, to err is human; but to correct our errors is always honorable. I believe I was wrong yesterday. You have had, I think, some satisfaction; and, if you deem that sufficient, here is my hand. Let us be friends."

Such an act of justice and courtesy few could resist; and Payne became, from that moment through life, an enthusiastic friend and admirer of Washington, who in all of his victories never won a more glorious triumph. When by ruling his own spirit, he subdued the anger of his enemy and won his confidence and love.


B.  You could have wrong others by finances.

            ILL:  What about the $800?



VII.  Your Relationship to those who have Wronged You.



A.  We need daily cleansing.  EX:  Like a daily bath.

            (I Jn.1:9—written to Christians)


B.  Unforgiveness blocks our daily cleansing.


C.  Without daily cleansing we can’t come before God.




A.  Your relationship to others has an awful lot to do with your

            relationship to God.

B.  Tonight we need to get it right.

Is there authority I have dishonored?

Is there anything I have done to disrespect my spouse?

Is there some support I am not giving my church?

Is there someone less fortunate I have turned my back on?

Is there someone I have wronged by slander or theft?

Is there someone I haven’t forgiven?


ILL:  Like clearing trees off the lines to get back communication.